My Interview with Researcher Marie Thouin, PhD
Hi Reader!
I've been in the room when jealousy erupts. And I've learned to turn it into the hottest moment of the night.
So when Dr. Marie Thouin, who has dedicated her career to researching compersion—the positive feeling you experience when your partner enjoys love or pleasure with someone else—started digging into eroticizing jealousy, she sought me out.
We go deep on:
- Mastering jealousy vs. trying to eradicate it
- Why threesomes reignite desire in established couples
- How jealousy can be arousing rather than destructive
- Non-exclusive possessiveness as a kink
- Agency as the key to turning jealousy into compersion
40 minutes full of surprising reframes, spicy stories from my work with couples, and vulnerable moments from my own navigation of jealousy with lovers.
One story from the interview: A couple married for 30 years. Things got very hot between me and the male partner. His wife's jealousy started rising. I could feel the shift in the room. But I didn't manage her jealousy—I invited it in! What happened next created a heat in their relationship that lasted for months.
This is a must-watch for anyone interested in the transformation of jealousy into desire.
With love,
Elaine
P.S. If fear of jealousy has been holding you back from reaching out, I get it. That fear is real. But what if jealousy is actually pointing you toward something you want? If you're curious, let's talk. Book a Discovery Call or simply reply here.
