Hi Reader!
There's a version of my story you might know from my About page.
And then there's the full story—the one with all the messy, transformative moments that shaped who I am today.
I shared it all in my interview on the podcast Normalizing Non-Monogamy (episode 421) which went live today.
My full story, unfiltered
It's 86 minutes of raw conversation. Here's a taste of what you'll hear:
My first threesome: a week in threesome bliss with my best friend and her boyfriend.
I'd never been with a woman before—terrified I wouldn't know how to touch her. Then one moment changed everything. I discovered confidence not just in giving pleasure, but in receiving it too.
From a threesome hours after meeting, to our polycule today.
Six years into our relationship, my husband has four lovers, I have two, and we're all friends. How do we actually make "kitchen table polyamory" work? And how do I navigate play spaces with multiple lovers without anyone feeling dropped?
When we accidentally moved in with our lover
We were supposed to take over her flat after she left the country. But pandemic visa delays meant she was still there when we moved in. Two weeks of watching them make out everywhere and I finally exploded: "I fucking hate this!" Four more weeks of absolute harmony followed. What unlocked that shift? It's the boundary lesson I use in every facilitation.
And more: how I discovered I'm "symbiosexual," the lightning-bolt moment when I realized my calling was to be a threesome facilitator, and what jealousy taught me through dark play.
Last call: Jealousy Playground
Speaking of jealousy—I also talk about the Jealousy Playground on the podcast, and we're down to our final tickets for the December 13-14 immersion in Oakland.
I didn't always know how to hold jealousy. I had to learn it through my own messy experiences. That exploration—through dark play and shadow work—is what we bring into the Jealousy Playground. It's how we transform what feels toxic into something erotic.
If you're feeling into exploring jealousy as a pathway to deeper intimacy, this is it.
🎟️ FINAL GENERAL ADMISSION TICKETS:
- 1 duo ticket left — $1,000
- 3 solo tickets left — $545
With love,
Elaine
P.S. Curious about threesome facilitation? In the podcast, I share the most detailed description of my Signature Threesome Journey I've ever given—how I guide couples, the games we play, the space I create for transformation. If you want to learn more, get in touch.
