Full Story: Threesome Facilitator on Kitchen Table Polyamory, Jealousy & Non-Monogamy
There's a version of my story you might know from my About page.
And then there's the full story—the one with all the messy, transformative moments that shaped who I am today as a Threesome Facilitator.
I shared it all in my interview on the podcast Normalizing Non-Monogamy (episode 421), hosted by Emma and Fin.
What You'll Hear in This 86-Minute Interview
My first threesome: Discovering Confidence in Giving and Receiving Pleasure
A week in threesome bliss with my best friend and her boyfriend. I'd never been with a woman before—terrified I wouldn't know how to touch her. Then one moment changed everything. I discovered confidence not just in giving pleasure, but in receiving it too.
From Our First Threesome to Kitchen Table Polyamory: Our Polycule Today
Six years into our relationship, my husband has four lovers, I have two, and we're all friends. How do we actually make kitchen table polyamory work? And how do I navigate play spaces with multiple lovers without anyone feeling dropped?
When We Accidentally Moved In With Our Lover: The Boundary Lesson I Use in Every Threesome Facilitation
We were supposed to take over her flat after she left the country. But pandemic visa delays meant she was still there when we moved in. Two weeks of watching them make out everywhere and I finally exploded: "I fucking hate this!" Four more weeks of absolute harmony followed. What unlocked that shift? It's the boundary lesson I use in every threesome journey.
And more:
- How I discovered I'm "symbiosexual"
- The lightning-bolt moment when I realized my calling was to be a threesome facilitator
- What dark play taught me about jealousy in polyamory
- A detailed description of my Signature Threesome Journey
About the Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast
Normalizing Non-Monogamy is a podcast exploring ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, and alternative relationship structures. Hosted by Emma and Fin, the show features conversations with practitioners, educators, and individuals navigating non-traditional relationships.
Ready to Explore Threesome Facilitation?
In the podcast, I share the most detailed description of my work I've ever given—how I guide couples, the games we play, the space I create for transformation.
If you're curious about working together, get in touch.
Navigating Jealousy in Non-Monogamous Relationships
I didn't always know how to hold jealousy. I had to learn it through my own messy experiences in polyamory. My exploration through dark play and shadow work is what I bring into my work as a facilitator. It's how we transform what feels toxic into something erotic.
Learn more about how I help couples transform jealousy into intimacy.
Frequently Asked Questions About Threesome Facilitation
What is a Threesome Facilitator?
As a Threesome Facilitator, I guide couples through structured, consent-focused experiences as they explore threesomes together. I combine coaching, consent games, and active participation to help couples navigate desire, boundaries, and jealousy.
How does kitchen table polyamory work?
Kitchen table polyamory is a style of non-monogamy where all partners (metamours) are comfortable being friends and spending time together—like sitting around the kitchen table. In my polycule, my husband's lovers and my lovers are all friends who genuinely enjoy each other's company.
How do you navigate jealousy in polyamory?
Jealousy in non-monogamous relationships requires clear communication, boundary setting, and sometimes reframing jealousy as information about our needs. I teach couples to transform jealousy from a threat into an opportunity for deeper intimacy through my Jealousy Playground workshop.
What does symbiosexual mean?
Symbiosexual describes someone who is attracted to the energy, dynamic, or multibody synergy of people in relationships—rather than to individuals alone. I discovered this term described my experience as a unicorn and threesome facilitator.
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